No big self-analyses for this chapter. Instead, I'm just going to share a few useful tidbits that I've gleaned from the text:
The first step in a 12-Step program, admitting powerlessness over addiction, establishes the fact that you want to do one thing but repeatedly do the opposite. One then asks God (one's higher power) for help to find the right path for you. The process of repentance, therefore, is establishing the negative parts of your life that you want to change.
"'I'm loving too much.'
'How can you love too much?'
'I do far more for people than I should. And that makes me very depressed.'
'I'm not quite sure what you are doing, but it certainly isn't love. The Bible says that true love leads to a blessed state and a state of cheer. Love brings happiness, not depression. If your loving is depressing you, it's probably not love.'" (Page 93)
If you're motivated by fear, you are not loving. If you say yes to everything, you are not loving. If you are motivated by shame over receiving and feel compelled to pay someone back for a gift, you are not loving. The Law of Motivation states: Freedom first, service second. The virtue is in giving freely without compulsion.
"It is crucial for victims of abuse to feel the rage and hatred of being powerless, but to be screaming 'victim rights' for the rest of their lives is being stuck in a 'victim mentality.'" (Page 98)
"Proactive people show you what they love, what they want, what they purpose, and what they stand for[...]Proactive people do not demand rights, they live them." (Page 98)
The first step in a 12-Step program, admitting powerlessness over addiction, establishes the fact that you want to do one thing but repeatedly do the opposite. One then asks God (one's higher power) for help to find the right path for you. The process of repentance, therefore, is establishing the negative parts of your life that you want to change.
"'I'm loving too much.'
'How can you love too much?'
'I do far more for people than I should. And that makes me very depressed.'
'I'm not quite sure what you are doing, but it certainly isn't love. The Bible says that true love leads to a blessed state and a state of cheer. Love brings happiness, not depression. If your loving is depressing you, it's probably not love.'" (Page 93)
If you're motivated by fear, you are not loving. If you say yes to everything, you are not loving. If you are motivated by shame over receiving and feel compelled to pay someone back for a gift, you are not loving. The Law of Motivation states: Freedom first, service second. The virtue is in giving freely without compulsion.
"It is crucial for victims of abuse to feel the rage and hatred of being powerless, but to be screaming 'victim rights' for the rest of their lives is being stuck in a 'victim mentality.'" (Page 98)
"Proactive people show you what they love, what they want, what they purpose, and what they stand for[...]Proactive people do not demand rights, they live them." (Page 98)
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